(See also Mourning)

Profound grief is preceded by deep love.

We never really get over grief; it becomes integrated into our life story.  —  Ray Cross

Honor your feelings by expressing them.

You can shed tears that (he/she) is gone, or
You can smile because (he/she) has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that
(He’ll/She’ll) come back, or
You can open your eyes and
See all (he’s/she’s) left.

Your heart can be empty
Because you can’t see (him/her), or
You can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow
And live yesterday, or
You can be happy for tomorrow
Because of yesterday.

You can remember (him/her) and
Only that (he’s/she’s) gone, or
you can cherish (his/her) memory and
Let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back, or
You can do what (he/she) would want:
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

— David Harkins


Grief is the price we pay for love.  – Anonymous


Say not in grief that ‘he is no more’ but live in thankfulness that he was.
— Old Hebrew proverb


No one knows our heartache,
Only those have lost can tell
Of the grief that we bear in silence
For the ones we loved so well.
We are sad within our memory,
Lonely are our hearts today,
For the ones we loved so dearly
Have forever been called away.
We think of them in silence,
No eye can see us weep,
But many silent tears are shed
When others are asleep.


What though the radiance which was once so bright be now forever taken from my sight, though nothing can bring back the hour of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower; we will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind.
— William Wordsworth (1770 – 1850) from his poem ‘Intimations of Immortality.’


Dear Friend…

No one can experience this sadness as you do,
For your feelings are unique and very personal to you–
No one can begin to know exactly how you feel,
Except to know that sorrow such as yours is deep and real.


I Am Always With You
I am always with you
When I am gone, release me, let me go.
I have so many things to see and do,
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with too many tears,
But be thankful we had so many good years.
I gave you my love, and you can only guess
How much you’ve given me in happiness.
I thank you for the love that you have shown,
But now it is time I traveled on alone.
So grieve for me a while, if grieve you must
Then let your grief be comforted by trust
That it is only for a while that we must part,
So treasure the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away for life goes on.
And if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can’t see or touch me, I will be near
And if you listen with your heart, you’ll hear
All my love around you soft and clear
And then, when you come this way alone,
I’ll greet you with a smile and a “Welcome Home”.
— Anonymous


Life Must Go On
Grieve for me, for I would grieve for you.

Then brush away the sorrow and the tears
Life is not over, but begins anew,
With courage you must greet the coming years.

To live forever in the past is wrong;
Can only cause you misery and pain.
Dwell not on memories overlong,
With others you must share and care again.

Reach out and comfort those who comfort you;
Recall the years, but only for a while.
Nurse not your loneliness; but live again.
Forget not. Remember with a smile.
— American Indian Navaho Prayer


Time will ease the hurt
The sadness of the present days

Is locked and set in time,
And moving to the future
Is a slow and painful climb.

But all the feelings that are now
So vivid and so real
Can’t hold their fresh intensity
As time begins to heal.

No wound so deep will ever go
Entirely away;
Yet every hurt becomes
A little less from day to day.

Nothing else can erase the painful
Imprints on your mind;
But there are softer memories
That time will let you find.

Though your heart won’t let the sadness
Simply slide away,
The echoes will diminish
Even though the memories stay.
— Bruce Wilmer


He Is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone

Or you can smile because he has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
— David Harkin


Let Me Go
We’ve known lots of pleasure,

At times endured pain,
We’ve lived in the sunshine
And walked in the rain.

But now we’re separated
And for a time apart,
But I am not alone
You’re forever in my heart.

Death always seems so sudden,
And it is always sure,
But what is oft’ forgotten
It is not without a cure.

There may be times you miss me,
I sort of hope you do,
But smile when you think of me,
For I’ll be waiting for you.

Now there’s many things for you to,
And lots of ways to grow,
So get busy, be happy, and live your life,
Miss me, but let me go.
— Anonymous


Departed Comrade
Departed comrade! Thou, redeemed from pain

Shall sleep the sleep that kings desire in vain:
Not thine the sense of loss
But lo, for us the void
That never shall be filled again.
Not thine but ours the grief.
All pain is fled from thee.
And we are weeping in thy stead;
Tears for the mourners who are left behind
Peace everlasting for the quiet dead.
— Lucretius, Roman epic poet and philosopher (ca 94 – 55BC)